When I was pregnant with my third child, I heard some ideas on how to introduce a new baby to an older child or children. Even though it went more or less okay when introducing my second child to my first, I decided to try some of the things I had heard. My oldest was in kindergarten, and the second born was three. Of course I had already been telling my first two children about the new baby, and they had talked to her ‘through’ my bellybutton. Their father and I set things up for after the birth.
The day came that my baby girl was born, and then it was time for her older siblings to meet her. I followed the advice I had heard, and made sure to put the baby in the bassinet before the children arrived. This way, they wouldn’t feel left out. I spent time with them, and introduced the baby to them after I made sure to spend time focusing just on them.
The day soon came to go home. I was more than ready! The oldest, my first daughter, was in school at the time. My second child, my son, was sent to a neighbor’s house for the morning. My newborn daughter and I arrived home, and I saw that she had fallen asleep in her car safety seat. I was happy it was one of those ones that detached from the base in the car. I was able to let her continue to sleep in the seat, undisturbed. My son came home with his dad, and I wanted to make sure he knew he wasn’t forgotten because of the baby. I left her in her car seat on the floor, and held him on my lap. We talked and hugged for a while, and then he got down and started to walk around. So far, he hadn’t seen the baby in her seat on the floor.
After a few minutes, he noticed her. Despite being only three years old, he got a look on his face that reminded me of a much older person. He said (in a “well, imagine that” kind of voice), “hey look mom, it’s a newborn”. I somehow held my laughter, but thinking about it ever since has always made me laugh, even almost 12 years later!
I came to the realization that although I had explained to him that I was pregnant and had a baby inside, and had shown him the baby while in the hospital, I had never told him that the baby was going to be joining us after she was born!
My first born came home a little later, and I greeted her with a hug and kiss. I then showed her the baby, and made sure to tell her that our new addition was there to stay!